HOW TO START SUCCESSFULLY TELLING STRANGERS ABOUT YOUR POINTLESS THOUGHTS
I have always had a deep rooted enjoyment for writing. I suck majorly at speaking off the top of my head usually and have always been able to get my point across clearly through a good old fashioned pen and paper. When I am talking to somebody in the moment, I tend to mumble and never truly say exactly what I am thinking in my confusing brain. This usually ends in an awkward moment or a misunderstanding that leads to some bullshit fight. My world is genuinely just a huge misunderstanding most of the time when something goes wrong….it’s…frustrating to say the least. I have always kept a diary since I was young and have had an infatuation with creative writing since I can remember. Putting my thoughts into the physical world where I can actually see how I am wording something and can edit really stupid sounding things is probably what draws me to putting down my thoughts. Also, my memory is TERRIBLE - like...smoking pot ten times a day for sixty years straight terrible. It terrifies me how totally lame my recollection of things is. Having a place, or multiple locations, to recall situations and ideas I have had serve my mind positively. This blog has helped me a whole lot too – more than any creative writing assignment ever has in school. It has been a strange sort of therapy and a release of thoughts I’ve bottled up for quite some time. For example, my post that introduced you lovely homies to my upbringing was the most I’ve thought about my dark and twisted past in a long time. Talking about it though was relieving – like when you have to get through the worst part of a virus. You’re vomiting and sweating and all that shit but know your body is fighting it but it’ll be over soon (usually) I’ve had some odd virus since leaving my childhood home and have been in the sweaty, uncomfortable vomiting stage for almost half a decade now. Typing that all out and airing my story in the fresh wind was my medicine that has helped me start healing. I think having a place to put your thoughts, whether you think they are important or not, is imperative nowadays with how much of a load we all seem to deal with: deaths, addiction, breakups, losing a job, not being able to pay bills, hating a job, traumas, and all of the other kind of negative things that are in fact necessary to balance life but suck when it comes to truly conquering them. Becoming in touch with your feelings and knowing how to put into words WHY you’re feeling the way you are is essential for a happy life. I used to be so very anxious, shy and awkward as fuck compared to how I am now. Don’t get me wrong, I still am. But, It’s not so bad being around crowds (even though I still hate it), and when I’m feeling depressed I don’t feel bad about it – I’ll write it out and feel better with a little time. This can be applied to almost any situation – there’s no quick, permanent fix – it’s a process that requires effort from you even when it does suck balls to even make your bed. If you have been contemplating starting a blog – which a lot of people I know are – I wanted to share some tips on how to get that shizzle started!
Know your brand.
Know who you are and what you stand for before starting a blog that the whole world can look at. Are you having a site strictly for cooking? An advice page? A positive polly page? A site dedicated to worshipping Satan with an undertone of your love of knitting too? A music review blog? All of the above? I have so many different thoughts, obsessions and likings that I put kenNERDdy under the Lifestyle Umbrella of categories. That simply means I can write about whatever the fuck I want and my readers can’t get mad for not sticking to a strict category, like reading, if I put out there that my blog is for lots of different things: music, venting, reviews, games, interviews, and things of that nature.
Figure out what site you will use for blogging.
There are tons of sites for blogging that you can use to get started. Blogspot, Squarespace, WordPress and much more – do your research. If you are going to need a lot of help with design and coding – choose a host that states how much customer service it has. Squarespace has a 24/7 chat that helps you with literally everything and they are so kind about not making you feel dumb for not knowing something! Also figure out if you are willing to pay for a better tier of service too. I upgraded recently with Squarespace and made sure I could afford it – but it is so worth it! If you are super cereal with becoming a blogger – I highly recommend paying $3-$6 / month to have a little more stretch room on your site. If you are still dipping your toes in the water, obviously stick with something free but if you know this is something you want to stay committed to – put a monthly billing ring on it!
This is the hardest thing to do. If you are going to COMMIT to posting once a week – stick it out for six months to one year with actually doing that! It takes 6 weeks to make something a habit but I recommend the year because as a new blogger – there are so many routes to take with growing your page and it takes time. If it is something you truly hate or something comes up that absolutely prevents you from posting - obviously there are times when that will happen and it’s understandable. But remember to communicate with your readers why you were absent or set a lower goal for yourself with how often you will post if you can’t stick to once a week. Make it once a month instead of a while. Your fans will thank you for not going MIA all the time!
Most importantly, LOVE your blog. If you end up truly dreading writing…then stop! It will shine through in your words when you lose the passion. Although there are times when I don’t feel like posting due to exhaustion or a busy schedule, I still really love what I am doing! I do this for me and receive happiness from owning it. If you are not yearning to truly make an impact or are going to halfass this – don’t do it, just like anything in life. When your name is attached to something – make it worth it. Ask yourself if you would read your own blog religiously just like how you follow certain people on the web. Have some core rules but remember to be yourself and don’t settle when it comes to what you are putting out there for everybody to see!
SONG OF THE WEEK
"Baby, It's Cold Outside" - She & Him (Okay, sappy doesn't even begin to describe this recommendation but it's my go to, obsessive Christmas song no matter who is covering it and it's December now so SHHHHH)
Cheesy Quote of the Week
"When on an airplane, you need to put YOUR oxygen mask on first before helping others." This is really corny.... and I heard it on Teen Mom 2 of all places (What is my life) but it's true! Help yourself before you can help others in any situation in life.
Disclaimer: These are my opinions on what I think I can recall of certain events in my life. I am in no way accusing anyone of any crimes and will never provide personal information such as names, addresses, and things of that nature. This is all being used to tell a story to help others out who may be in a similar situation.